"God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble."   Psalm 46:1

                                     "God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble."   Psalm 46:1

The past few years I have had the opportunity to encourage and help guide women through the intense trauma experience that has come from betrayal by the person who shares her most intimate relationship--her husband. With the epidemic of pornography use as well as living in a highly sexualized culture, infidelity is a growing problem and is wreaking havoc on marriages and families.  The reaction to this trauma and its effects is extremely difficult to survive and in the very least, try to navigate.  

At a time when you are experiencing a flood of emotions; anger, deep hurt, shame, embarrassment, self-blame, hopelessness and fear, reaching out for help seems almost impossible.  But, receiving help, encouragement, and support is vital to making it through.  

Help is hard to find since "experts" vary in their approaches and often speak without first-hand experience.  Even those who have walked through their own experience often speak without a true dose of reality and can offer shallow advice.  Counseling, programs and support groups tend to be expensive so it takes a lot of discernment on what holds the most value.

I have waded through vast amounts of research and resources and have developed a list of what I believe are helpful and trustworthy.  It can at least be a starting point in a confusing storm of circumstances.

If you find yourself in this difficult situation, there is help and there is hope.  Please contact me if you are interested in allowing me to share this list of resources with you.  I would also be honored to hear your story and be a listening ear when you need one the most.